by Louise Bates Ames, Ph.D. and Frances L. Ilg, M.D.
I was introduced to these books by Sarah at Hindsight – Thank you!
This is a great series of book about child development, from Your One-Year-Old through Your Ten- to Fourteen-Year-Old.
This is not just another parenting book, and does not teach a particular philosophy or discipline style. Instead, the focus is on the characteristics of each age – how your child responds to other children; what general milestones are reached; why your child is behaving a particular way right now.
The authors talk about alternating times of equilibrium and disequilibrium. Where three is an age of conformity, three-and-a-half is just the opposite. A three-year-old is confident and happy; a three-and-a-half-year-old child becomes insecure and anxious, but also determined and self-willed.
Reading this book has taught me several things:
- It is normal for my son to experience fears and insecurities, even in things he had previously mastered.
- This weird stutter that has developed over the last few weeks, is normal and will fade over time.
- My son is learning to exert his will; I need to give him room to “win” in the daily struggle for control.
- This is the age to begin developing meaningful conversations, to lay the groundwork for great conversations later on.
- And especially that this phase will pass, both the bad and the good.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who has a three-year-old, even if you only read the first four chapters. The entire book is packed with valuable perspective and information. The chapters are as follows:
- Characteristics of the Age,
- The Child with Other Children,
- Techniques (great chapter) and
- Accomplishments and Abilities
- The Three-Year-Old Birthday Party (terrific ideas for a successful party),
- Help with Routines (great help for those who's child is at three-and-a-half),
- The Child’s Mind or How He Sees the World
- Stories from Real Life
This book is only 150 pages and well worth the read!
By the way, this is not a paid or solicited review; I just really liked this book.